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Talk about how the pandemic has affected your closest relationships.

For the first four months of the pandemic, I was in lockdown in Spain, my husband's home country, and he was in lockdown in the US. It was very strange. We were each looking after each other's mothers. I came back a few weeks ago to the US and we had two weeks together. The first week we couldn't relate to each other. Our experiences were so radically different, he could not understand mine nor express his. After much fighting and crying and drinking and melting down, we finally got to a better place. We had a nice week together. And then he left to go see his mom. Over six months we will have been together two weeks, one of them bad. I feel like a military spouse, which I know isn't fair--I wasn't fighting or in danger, but it does feel like we are under siege, especially here, in the US, where there is so much uncertainty and it feels like we have all been left to fend for ourselves. In Spain, it wasn't like that. The Government took control and told everyone what to do. And mostly, people did it, because their concern was for their neighbor and family and the greater good of society. I cannot relate to the individualistic attitudes here, because these attitudes and behaviors damage other people. ...